Appendix N * The Foundation Routine Reference Sheet
Print out this sheet for easy reference. If you are uncertain of any part of this procedure, re-read Chapters 7 and 8. ~ Instructions: Fold…
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Appendix M — Testimonials And Case Histories: It Works!
Over many generations of bringing the Goulding System parenting approach to the world, the author, Joane Goulding, has assisted families around the globe to develop…
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Appendix L — HARP: Hybrid Access And Archival Publishing Protocol
A Structured Framework for Reference Access, Verification, and Archival Preservation 1. Purpose and Rationale The HARP system (Hybrid Access and Archival Publishing Protocol) has been…
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Appendix K — Émile Coué: Suggestion, And The Early Psychology Of Hope
In the early decades of the twentieth century, long before neuroscience, cognitive behavioural therapy, or the scientific study of placebo and nocebo effects had become…
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Appendix J * The Foundation Routine: Technical And Scientific Notes
Introduction — Why These Notes Exist The Foundation Routine is intentionally simple. This appendix briefly explains the underlying principles that support it. It is not…
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Appendix I * The Foundation Routine: A Quick Guide
Introduction — A One-Page Summary This appendix is a brief overview of the general structure of the Goulding System Foundation Routine. It explains in brief…
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Appendix H — About The Founder: Joane Goulding
Joane Goulding is the Creator of The Goulding System. Based on biographical and historical material Early Life and Formative Influences Joane Goulding was born in…
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Appendix G — Contact and Practitioner Directory
Over the years, many parents and professionals have asked where they can find further support, guidance, or training related to the Goulding System. Current information…
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Appendix F * The Goulding System: Glossary Of Terms
This glossary explains many of the key terms, concepts, and expressions used throughout the Goulding System. It is intended to help parents, caregivers, educators, and…
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Appendix E — Further Reading and Resources
A Note on the Included Classic Texts From time to time, readers ask where the ideas behind this System first began. The honest answer is…
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Appendix D * Foundation Statement Variables
Introduction: modern families are varied The Foundation Statement remains exact in wording and order. However, families come in many forms, and not every line applies…
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Appendix C — FAQs: Frequently Asked Questions
1. Understanding the Goulding System Q 1.1 What is the Goulding System? A. The Goulding System is a gentle, family-based approach that offers children nightly…
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Appendix B — Developing Research, Emerging Studies & Ongoing Investigations
Pilot Study at Heinrich-Heine-Universität Düsseldorf A noteworthy emerging investigation into sleep-based suggestion techniques is a pilot study conducted at the Institute for Clinical Psychology, Heinrich-Heine-Universität…
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Appendix A — The Science Behind The Goulding System
Suggestion and the Subconscious – From Coué to Modern Psychology The idea that positive suggestions can influence mental processes has deep historical roots. Over a…
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Goulding System References
External Links Notice External hyperlinks are provided for reader convenience and reference only, and their inclusion does not constitute endorsement of the linked organisations, authors,…
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Chapter 16 — The Goulding System Today: Legacy & Continuation
When Joane Goulding first began speaking loving words to her daughter in the 1970s, she was not setting out to create a program. There was…
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Chapter 15 — Special Considerations and Professional Guidance
Introduction — Care With Wisdom Every child is unique. Some sail smoothly through life’s early years, while others face medical, neurological, or emotional challenges that…
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Chapter 14 — Foundations Before Birth
Introduction – A Voice Before Birth Parents often ask whether the Goulding System can begin before a baby is born. The answer is simple —…
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Chapter 13 — Goulding System Support: Building On The Foundation
Introduction — Understanding the Goulding System Support Pathway Every family begins the Goulding System in the same place: with the Foundation Routine and the Foundation…
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Chapter 12 — Foundation Feedback
Introduction — Understanding the Signs of Change Every child responds to the Foundation Routine in their own way. Some changes are gentle and almost unnoticeable;…
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Chapter 11 — Sibling Conflict – The Support Process
Introduction — When Normal Friction Becomes Harm In most families, sibling relationships move between harmony, disharmony, and rivalry. These shifts are ordinary. They are developmental….
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Chapter 10 — Siblings: Harmony, Disharmony & Rivalry
Introduction — Growing Up Together For many children, a sibling is their first companion, their first challenger, and often their first experience of navigating closeness…
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Chapter 9 — Holding Children Steady In Unsteady Times
Introduction — Returning to the Centre A young child’s emotional world rests on a small number of quiet beliefs: I am loved. I am wanted….
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Chapter 8 * The Foundation Statement – What To Say
Introduction — The Heart of the Method Everything we have covered leads to this and the following chapter. The Foundation Statement is the heart of…
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Chapter 7 * The Foundation Routine – What To Do
Introduction — Entering the Calm You’ve now explored the Top Hat Technique and seen how a child’s brain naturally moves through different stages, becoming more…
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Chapter 6 * The Top Hat Technique
Introduction – From Joane For many years, I have used a simple concept to help parents understand how a child’s mind opens to loving reassurance…
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Chapter 5 — The Brain As A Computer Model
Introduction – Your Brain Is Not a Computer… But Let’s Pretend It Is We use computers constantly — phones, tablets, laptops. We’ve learned how quickly…
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Chapter 4 — Understanding The Subconscious
Introduction — The Mind Beneath Awareness Every parent recognises the look in a sleeping child’s face — the softness, the stillness, the quiet that feels…
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Chapter 3 — The Miracle Mind: Why It Works
Introduction — Why the Mind Responds When families begin using the Goulding System, many are surprised by the changes they start to see. What feels…
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Chapter 2 — The Story Of Michelle
Introduction — When Struggle Becomes Change Every story begins with a heartbeat. Mine began with a little girl who quietly altered the direction of my…
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Chapter 1 — The Foundation Of Unconditional Love
Introduction – Love Without Condition The Goulding System begins with one simple truth — and it is a powerful one: A child who feels loved…
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Table Of Contents
Goulding System Book Table of Contents Other Books by Joane Goulding. i Copyright and Publication Information ii Child Protection and Mandatory Reporting iii Dedication iv…
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Introduction: Before You Begin
This introduction offers a clear, everyday-language overview of what the Goulding System is, how it works, and what parents commonly notice when they begin using…
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How To Use This Book
Parents come to this book with different needs. Some are tired and looking for immediate reassurance. Others prefer to understand the reasoning before they begin….
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A Note on This Edition
A Note On This Edition This book has been written for parents and families. Its purpose is practical: to help you understand and confidently use…
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About The Co-Author: David Dixon
David Dixon has worked alongside Joane Goulding for more than two decades and has been closely involved in the development, refinement, and dissemination of the…
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A Message From Joane Goulding
It is an honour to share with you a process that began as a deeply personal experience and, over time, has touched the lives of…
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Preliminary Pages
The Goulding System Online Edition* A Parent’s Guide to Emotional Resilience in Children By Joane Goulding David Dixon *From the Complete Edition. Copyright…
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Parenting 101: Why Emotional Foundations Matter
Every parent wants their child to grow up feeling loved, confident, secure, and emotionally resilient. Yet many parents discover that modern life can make emotional…
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Parenting SOS: When Parents Feel They’ve Tried Everything
Some parents arrive at the Goulding System after months — or even years — of searching for answers. They may be dealing with issues such…
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Cherie de Hass – Naturopath, Former Presenter: Healthy Wealthy and Wise
I have used the Goulding System for over thirty-five years. This is not a therapy and does not involve taking medications – just a commonsense…
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Dr Janet M. Hall – Clinical and Counselling Psychologist
“Joan Goulding’s Goulding System program is the ideal tool for parents to assist their children’s positive self-growth in a loving, non-threatening context. It empowers parents…
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Dr. Eileen Feeney – Registered MD and Psychiatrist
“I am a qualified medical practitioner and psychiatrist. I have used Goulding System for many years. Goulding System is a safe, effective and a very…
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Professor Ian Brighthope – Fellow of Australasian College of Nutritional and Environmental Medicine
“Goulding System is a sensible practical and easy-to-follow method of communicating important messages to the subconscious mind. This process should be used by all parents,…
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Gary Johnston – Psychotherapist and Clinical Hypnotherapist
“Children deal with trauma in a different way to adults, often not able to express what they are feeling as a result of any trauma….
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John Cheetham – Consulting Psychologist
“Goulding System is a powerful process that enables a parent to interact with their child in a powerful way. Through Goulding System, the interaction between…
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Jeff Berger – Counselling Psychologist
“There is no doubt that the time is now right for the benefits of the Goulding System to be disseminated more widely among healthcare professionals…
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A huge believer in the Goulding System miracle. “
“I have been doing Goulding System with ‘D’ (9 years old) now for 6 months and I have a new boy! He is back to…
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It truly does create miracles in the lives of children and their parents.”
‘”J’ has exhibited some excellent improvements and some outstanding breakthroughs not just at school, but in his home environment as well. I do believe a…
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WOW, I thought what an impact this has had”
“Attempting something for the first time, I was nervous to begin the process, especially as it takes me forever to get ‘L’ to sleep. The…
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Sibling rivalry issues prior to starting Goulding System.”
” P’ is the younger of 2 siblings. Her older brother and her had some sibling rivalry issues prior to starting Goulding System, with ‘P’ displaying…
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My 10-year-old son has Autism and he is highly anxious.”
“My 10-year-old son has Autism and he is highly anxious. You have helped us with Goulding System, a program to provide my son with an…
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Planning to continue using the Goulding System”
“‘J’ is a delightful young boy and Goulding System has made a significant change to his general demeanour. He seems much happier, light and…
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What can I say, thank you, thank you, thank you”
“What can I say, thank you, thank you, thank you – for giving me back my sweet little boy. His behaviour has done a complete…
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I found the Goulding System process a beautiful one.”
I found the Goulding System routine a beautiful one. It gives me the opportunity to reflect daily on what matters most; unconditional love. Over the…
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After 12 weeks of the Goulding System Foundation Stage…
After 12 weeks of the Goulding System- Foundation Stage Mum noticed results after two weeks of the Goulding System and the first observation was the…
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She Calmly Got Herself Off to Sleep!”
“I am very embarrassed to be writing to you, so long after I completed the Goulding System course with you. If you remember, at the…
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The result: EXTRAORDINARY !!”
For some time, my son had great fears, a lack of self-confidence and an uncontrollable sensitivity (often at the end of the day). We did…
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I recommend this therapy 100% !!!!”
The Goulding System gave a new start to our family. I started with my 6-year-old son who had a lot of excitement to evacuate and…
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Oh My Goodness, I am so very thrilled about this!!”
My children have become calm again and the household is happier, thank you for giving me back my child. I have been presenting Goulding System…
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Goulding System has Been a Huge Success!”
He’s going to bed without a fuss is now the norm! Possibly being twinned with a new and regular bedtime routine he now never complains…
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Response to the Goulding System Foundation Statements was Immediate!”
A response to the Goulding System Foundation statements was immediate! The morning after the very first time of using the statements ‘T’ came up to…
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What happens if parents cannot get a reaction from the sleeping child?
Q. What happens if parents cannot get a reaction from the sleeping child, do go ahead anyway or try later? A. If the parent doesn’t…
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What if both parents are involved in presenting the method?
Q. What if parents are involved in presenting the Method, do both present it on the same evening or do they alternate? A. The Method…
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What if there are two children in the room?
Q. What if there are two children in the room do I say the Foundation Process twice? Do I mention their names, singling them out?…
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What age is puberty?
A. The age varies but the primary indications of puberty in the female child are the onset of menstruation and body shape changes. The male…
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Does it matter how far away I stand?
A. No, not really; you just need to be within physical contact and hearing distance. Remember, you are talking softly. However, if you child is…
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Can I use the Goulding System during afternoon naps?
Can I use the Goulding System during afternoon naps? A. Yes, especially if difficulty is experienced at sleep time. Read More: Joane Answers 50 FAQs…
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How do I speak so I don’t wake the child up?
A. Just speak softly and slowly in a low steady tone. Do NOT whisper, as whispering may cause the child to wonder what is occurring…
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Should parents repeat the suggestions during the day?
A. Yes. It would be very beneficial to repeat the basic Foundation script and/or the Specific Suggestions during the day as this will help to…
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Is the Goulding System the same as hypnosis?
A. No. The only thing the Goulding System and hypnosis have in common is that they both use suggestions. Hypnosis is presented by a professional…
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If a child is always happy, how can feedback be assessed?
A. Parents need to be very sensitive to the changes occurring with their child. If always happy then allow at least the basic timeframe of…
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If a parent has died, does that parent still get named?
Q. What about when the child is old enough to comprehend the death of one parent. Does that parent still get named? A. Just because…
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Some children live regimented orderly lives, would the Goulding System help them?
A. Yes definitely. Some children, who relate well to organised structured lives, sometimes have more difficulty adapting to a crisis or major changes than those…
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Does it matter if sounds can be heard when presenting the Goulding System?
Q. Does it matter if sound can be heard or the radio or the TV is on when presenting the Goulding System? A. Yes it…
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What happens if the child awakens when doing the Goulding System?
A. That is not a problem as long as the parent doesn’t panic and creates more anxiety. Just continue with the basic suggestions. The reaction…
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Would you tell the child that you are presenting the Goulding System?
A. No, never. The conscious critical analysis would interfere and might negate the parent’s efforts. Also, encouraging parents to present some of the basic suggestions…
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Would you explain in more detail what you mean by feedback?
A. ‘Feedback’ means identifying a change in behaviour or communication. After presenting the Foundation Statement of the Goulding System, it’s important to determine the child’s…
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What happens if either parent feels uncomfortable working with the Goulding System?
A. Mums or the female energy tend to be more in favour or perhaps be more comfortable with presenting the Goulding System and in some…
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Is there any difference in the basic process when working with a child who is “impaired”?
Q. Is there any difference in the basic process when working with a normal child to that with working when a child who is intellectually,…
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Does the unconscious mind of a foetus pick up on the mother’s emotions?
A. That depends on your personal philosophy of whether or not you believe there’s a connection of minds prior to a child’s birth. Feedback and…
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How early can you start presenting the Goulding System?
Q. What about a very young child? How early can you start presenting the method? A. When does a child understand language? A very young…
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What happens if more than one child is sleeping in the room?
A. This is not a problem because parents can present the Goulding System with both/all children, and all children gain from utilising their full potential….
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What happens if it is an unhappy or a sad day for the child?
Q. The the Goulding System includes phrases about a happy day. What happens if it is an unhappy or a sad day for the child?…
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How would you describe the child who awakens easily?
Q. How would you describe the child who awakens very easily, has difficulty going to sleep, or is often awake throughout the night? A. Very…
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What happens if they have a fear of someone?
A. A very difficult question but a very important one. Suggestions presented during the Method will last for life. Later in life it might be…
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Is there a specific Primary Area of Need suggestion for anxiety?
Q. Is there a specific ‘Primary Area of Need’ suggestion you would use if there was a general anxiety or conflict or concern about going…
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Can you work with multiple issues at the same time?
A. The first priority is to establish acceptance of the Foundation suggestions and introduce the Unit Two bridging suggestions to ensure consolidation of those suggestions…
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What happens if my child is fine except for nail-biting?
A. There are a number of issues needing to be addressed here. Is the nail-biting just a habit, a learned behaviour, or a symptom of…
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What about asthma? Can the Goulding System assist?
A. All asthma issues are complicated. Sometimes it’s a psychological reaction to a major anxiety, which may even indicate a fear of life or death….
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Does the Goulding System work with children who don’t have concerns or problems?
Q. Does the Goulding System work with children who don’t have concerns or problems? And what benefits would they gain? A. Absolutely, the Goulding System…
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What about dysfunctional families?
Q. What about dysfunctional families? For example, where a parent is abusing a child and the other parent doesn’t know? What happens then? A. This…
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What if a parent is not living with the family and has personally abused the child?
Q. If a parent is not living with the family and has personally abused the child either physically or emotionally – do you still say…
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What happens if a marriage breaks up or one person moves away or dies?
Q. What happens if a marriage breaks up or one person moves away or dies, and one parent is left very preoccupied with their own…
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What happens if one parent doesn’t love the child?
Q. What happens if one parent doesn’t love the child? Aren’t you lying to the child? A. What right does one person have to assume…
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What happens if the non-custodial parent is restricted in terms of access?
Q. What happens if the non-custodial parent is restricted in terms of access? Doesn’t that cause conflict with the method? A. Initially its possible confusion…
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When there is a stepmother or stepfather, what happens regarding the absent partner?
Q. When there is a stepmother or stepfather, what happens then to the basic script regarding the absent partner? Since the child’s basic self-image comes…
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Does it matter if only one parent does the Goulding System?
A. In this day and age this is not as straight forward question as it may seem. Generally, it’s better for both parents to be…
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How does the Goulding System deal with issues like education, stress and anxiety?
A. Some of the positive feedback we have received over the past years has been posted on the testimonials page. You’ll find testimonials about children…
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Can the Goulding System assist with Behaviour Management like Autism or ODD?
Q. What areas of behaviour management can this method assist children with? For example, can it assist Autism or the controversial Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD)?…