What happens if parents cannot get a reaction from the sleeping child?
Q. What happens if parents cannot get a reaction from the sleeping child, do go ahead anyway or try later? A. If the parent doesn’t…
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What if both parents are involved in presenting the method?
Q. What if parents are involved in presenting the Method, do both present it on the same evening or do they alternate? A. The Method…
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What if there are two children in the room?
Q. What if there are two children in the room do I say the Foundation Process twice? Do I mention their names, singling them out?…
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What age is puberty?
A. The age varies but the primary indications of puberty in the female child are the onset of menstruation and body shape changes. The male…
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Does it matter how far away I stand?
A. No, not really; you just need to be within physical contact and hearing distance. Remember, you are talking softly. However, if you child is…
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Can I use the Goulding System during afternoon naps?
Can I use the Goulding System during afternoon naps? A. Yes, especially if difficulty is experienced at sleep time. Read More: Joane Answers 50 FAQs…
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How do I speak so I don’t wake the child up?
A. Just speak softly and slowly in a low steady tone. Do NOT whisper, as whispering may cause the child to wonder what is occurring…
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Should parents repeat the suggestions during the day?
A. Yes. It would be very beneficial to repeat the basic Foundation script and/or the Specific Suggestions during the day as this will help to…
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Is the Goulding System the same as hypnosis?
A. No. The only thing the Goulding System and hypnosis have in common is that they both use suggestions. Hypnosis is presented by a professional…
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If a child is always happy, how can feedback be assessed?
A. Parents need to be very sensitive to the changes occurring with their child. If always happy then allow at least the basic timeframe of…
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If a parent has died, does that parent still get named?
Q. What about when the child is old enough to comprehend the death of one parent. Does that parent still get named? A. Just because…
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Some children live regimented orderly lives, would the Goulding System help them?
A. Yes definitely. Some children, who relate well to organised structured lives, sometimes have more difficulty adapting to a crisis or major changes than those…
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Does it matter if sounds can be heard when presenting the Goulding System?
Q. Does it matter if sound can be heard or the radio or the TV is on when presenting the Goulding System? A. Yes it…
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What happens if the child awakens when doing the Goulding System?
A. That is not a problem as long as the parent doesn’t panic and creates more anxiety. Just continue with the basic suggestions. The reaction…
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Would you tell the child that you are presenting the Goulding System?
A. No, never. The conscious critical analysis would interfere and might negate the parent’s efforts. Also, encouraging parents to present some of the basic suggestions…
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Would you explain in more detail what you mean by feedback?
A. ‘Feedback’ means identifying a change in behaviour or communication. After presenting the Foundation Statement of the Goulding System, it’s important to determine the child’s…
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What happens if either parent feels uncomfortable working with the Goulding System?
A. Mums or the female energy tend to be more in favour or perhaps be more comfortable with presenting the Goulding System and in some…
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Is there any difference in the basic process when working with a child who is “impaired”?
Q. Is there any difference in the basic process when working with a normal child to that with working when a child who is intellectually,…
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Does the unconscious mind of a foetus pick up on the mother’s emotions?
A. That depends on your personal philosophy of whether or not you believe there’s a connection of minds prior to a child’s birth. Feedback and…
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How early can you start presenting the Goulding System?
Q. What about a very young child? How early can you start presenting the method? A. When does a child understand language? A very young…
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What happens if more than one child is sleeping in the room?
A. This is not a problem because parents can present the Goulding System with both/all children, and all children gain from utilising their full potential….
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What happens if it is an unhappy or a sad day for the child?
Q. The the Goulding System includes phrases about a happy day. What happens if it is an unhappy or a sad day for the child?…
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How would you describe the child who awakens easily?
Q. How would you describe the child who awakens very easily, has difficulty going to sleep, or is often awake throughout the night? A. Very…
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What happens if they have a fear of someone?
A. A very difficult question but a very important one. Suggestions presented during the Method will last for life. Later in life it might be…
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Is there a specific Primary Area of Need suggestion for anxiety?
Q. Is there a specific ‘Primary Area of Need’ suggestion you would use if there was a general anxiety or conflict or concern about going…
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Can you work with multiple issues at the same time?
A. The first priority is to establish acceptance of the Foundation suggestions and introduce the Unit Two bridging suggestions to ensure consolidation of those suggestions…
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What happens if my child is fine except for nail-biting?
A. There are a number of issues needing to be addressed here. Is the nail-biting just a habit, a learned behaviour, or a symptom of…
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What about asthma? Can the Goulding System assist?
A. All asthma issues are complicated. Sometimes it’s a psychological reaction to a major anxiety, which may even indicate a fear of life or death….
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Does the Goulding System work with children who don’t have concerns or problems?
Q. Does the Goulding System work with children who don’t have concerns or problems? And what benefits would they gain? A. Absolutely, the Goulding System…
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What about dysfunctional families?
Q. What about dysfunctional families? For example, where a parent is abusing a child and the other parent doesn’t know? What happens then? A. This…
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What if a parent is not living with the family and has personally abused the child?
Q. If a parent is not living with the family and has personally abused the child either physically or emotionally – do you still say…
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What happens if a marriage breaks up or one person moves away or dies?
Q. What happens if a marriage breaks up or one person moves away or dies, and one parent is left very preoccupied with their own…
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What happens if one parent doesn’t love the child?
Q. What happens if one parent doesn’t love the child? Aren’t you lying to the child? A. What right does one person have to assume…
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What happens if the non-custodial parent is restricted in terms of access?
Q. What happens if the non-custodial parent is restricted in terms of access? Doesn’t that cause conflict with the method? A. Initially its possible confusion…
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When there is a stepmother or stepfather, what happens regarding the absent partner?
Q. When there is a stepmother or stepfather, what happens then to the basic script regarding the absent partner? Since the child’s basic self-image comes…
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Does it matter if only one parent does the Goulding System?
A. In this day and age this is not as straight forward question as it may seem. Generally, it’s better for both parents to be…
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How does the Goulding System deal with issues like education, stress and anxiety?
A. Some of the positive feedback we have received over the past years has been posted on the testimonials page. You’ll find testimonials about children…
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Can the Goulding System assist with Behaviour Management like Autism or ODD?
Q. What areas of behaviour management can this method assist children with? For example, can it assist Autism or the controversial Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD)?…
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Does the Goulding System allow parents to change negative suggestions or situations?
A. Yes, absolutely! From the moment of birth and even before, professionals now believe that thoughts, feelings, reactions and memories are registered in the deep…
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What are the worst things that parents say to their children?
A. Most parents I’ve talked to admit that sometimes they say things to their child that they don’t mean or later regret saying. According to…
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Would all children benefit from the Goulding System?
A. Most children have problems — or at the very least, “doubts” — so my answer is yes. Some parents say, But my child doesn’t…
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Tell me more about Dr. Norman Doidge’s work in the area of Neuroplasticity
A. Neuroplasticity is a subject that greatly interests me. I came across Dr: Norman Doidge’s book The Brain That Changes Itself in 2010. Dr Doidge…
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How is Michelle now?
A. I’m delighted to tell you the end result! Although Michelle still has an intellectual and emotional IQ of around 45, and she still has…
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When did you realise that the method was helping Michelle?
A. It was one morning after we had used the process for a few weeks. Michelle was coming into the kitchen for breakfast and I…
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Was the circus paddock when you began to develop the Goulding System?
A. After the circus paddock, I refused to believe that there was no help for Michelle and started to ask, what if? I rejected the…
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What made you realise that something could be done for Michelle?
A. It was the mid to late 70’s and Jim’s curiosity about how the unconscious mind worked was infectious. Jim was a Clinical Hypnotherapist and…
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What was the turning point with Michelle?
A. Michelle had been assigned to a new school and by a stroke of good fortune the local authorities had lost all the papers relating…
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Why did you develop the Goulding System?
A. My personal story will answer this question! In 1966 my first born, Michelle, was everything I had ever wanted. She seemed well and happy…
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Please explain how the Goulding System helps create “Emotional Health?
A. Emotional health in childhood, in my opinion is the key to future happiness. Australian national paper, ‘The Observer’, reported that Lord Richard Layard, Emeritus…
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What is the Goulding System?
A. Goulding System is an alternative and substance-free, self-help process for parents coping with a challenging child. Sometimes a lack of knowledge or support can…